dear diaRY

Starting over again, whether if is a result of a divorce or death, or relationship break up, can be painful to experience. Starting again, has caused many a hardship, anxiety, separation or depression. We all, at one time or another, have had to pick ourselves up and start again; even the cause was injury that resulted in changing sports. Once finally accept these changes as a part of life can we once again move forward.

Steps to Take

1. Accept - the fact that changes have to be made in your life. (I want, I need, I must.)
2. Recognize - what caused the changes. (Many things has happen due to the stupidity, negligence, and ignorance of mine, what done is done, what said is said, Now it needs to be let go and move forward.)
3. Meet - others. (Attending socials and not feeling guilty about it. To get on with my life and be happy again. Do I deserve it? Can I do it?)
4. Forgiveness – (It is an essential of from others and myself. The feeling of guilty about things had happen, and to seek that forgiveness from my loved one is a impossible task for me. I want to own up to what I have done completely but I can’t. Am listening to those who are there to help and trying my best to overcome the barriers to my wellness that I have placed in my way.)

Tips I got

• Never say, "I should have done things differently," or "if only I knew." Blame can be like poison in the body. Accept what has happened and go on with your life because you really cannot change a thing.
• Finding a new job or a new sport can be the start of a new life. You may find that it will be the best thing that has happened to you, something you have always wanted to do, but never had the nerve to change.
• Rearrange the furniture. Sometimes the memories of a room or a house can be hard to shake. Take an afternoon and rearrange the furniture, pictures, etc. It will start feeling new and fresh and the memories of your new place will be all yours.
• Spend time with people that make you feel good and make you feel positive. You may find that old friends are bringing you down. Change the patterns and surround yourself with people who make you feel better or encourage your self improvement. Sometimes the best way to start over is to cut out the negatives.